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Adding the Spark

Do you allow yourself to play? Everyday? When did life become so serious that it was stripped of all the fun? Well I will tell you because I know this well; it’s when you stopped playing. Life can only be as delightful as you make it because it’s your attention that adds the sparkle.

I don’t know about you, but most women have been programmed to complain, even if we don’t know we are doing it. Without realizing it, we tend to find what is wrong with ourselves and our world instead of looking at what is right. When you are looking for what is wrong or not quite right, you will find more of what is wrong or not quite right. Because you always find what you are looking for, why not start looking for delight? How can you bring magic into this day that seems from the outset to look like every other day of the week?

There are those who save the spark for vacation, could this be you? You know, you could choose to approach this differently. You could actually decide that every single day is vacation. If you intend for this to be so, it will be, but it requires you to intentionally reframe how you are viewing the world. If you wake up believing this is just another day and looking forward to Friday when the workweek will be over and you can finally relax, that is exactly what it will be.

You don’t need anything beyond a shift in your perception to have your life light up in ways you couldn’t have even predicted, but you have to be willing to resist the temptation of falling back into the same old day. I am not saying this will be easy, because it will require some diligence on your part. The reason is that your subconscious mind has created a blueprint of a life that you have grown comfortable living in. Basically, the alarm goes off and your program begins and you relive the day you have memorized and by now you could basically do in your sleep. Your subconscious is in the driver’s seat. In order to change this habit of living the same day over and over again, you have to make a conscious choice to take over the wheel.

It starts with becoming very aware of what is going on around you in the moment. Instead of being all caught up in your head, become aware of what you are doing right now and get all your senses involved. What do you hear? What do you see? What do you feel? What can you smell? What do you taste?

From that place of awareness, bring your attention into an active state of appreciation for what is happening. See if you can find joy in what is already here. No matter where you are right now, there is joy available if you can tune into it. Have you ever noticed the people who walk around wide-eyed like they just landed on earth and they seem to be amazed and delighted by every little thing? Well, maybe they did just arrive from another planet or another country, but some of them are intentionally making themselves available for what is here to delight them in this moment. This is available for you too.

When you begin to interact with your environment in this way, you are elevating your life experience. You begin to notice things that you just didn’t notice before. You begin to listen more intently to what is happening all around you. The more you notice about what is going on right now and what you like about it, the more alive you feel.

The next level of this practice is to add your own spark to add to the enjoyment of the moment, like maybe turning on some soft jazz in the background. You could light a candle to enjoy while you are paying your bills. This is how you find the sparkle in the mundane. Just a subtle gesture can make all the difference in your experience of the moment. Here is the secret. It’s your awareness and attention to the moment that makes it sparkle. It’s in the way you choose to look at something or someone that brings the moment to life for you. Don’t wait around for life to show up differently for you, because if you keep choosing to see it the same way, it will keep showing up the same. If you want to change your experience of the world, you have to change how you approach the world you see.

Flirt with your life and your life will flirt back with you.