" Good luck making it” were the parting words from my ex as I left a 10-year marriage where I felt deeply unsupported and alone. I had stayed too long in a loveless relationship because he was the breadwinner. I was determined to prove him wrong.

As a single mom of a teenage daughter, I spent the next decade building a successful 5-star therapeutic massage business with hundreds of loyal customers and a top-notch staff. I worked my ass off for years refining every aspect of the business to be the very best. And it was! But somewhere along the way, I lost my passion. I was burnt out.

At this point, I had a side hustle as a therapeutic coach. This was really where my heart was. My intuition was telling me it was time to transition, but I was terrified to let go of the business. So instead of following my gut, I left things the way they were. It was working... right?

Then one day, a client of mine invited me to a spiritual retreat in Sayulita, Mexico. There had been a last-minute cancellation, and I knew I couldn’t pass this up. I arrived one week later at this stunning resort by the ocean. As I was making my way to my jungle cabana, I noticed a woman lounging by the infinity pool, deeply relaxed and without a care in the world. The contrast between her energy and my own was so striking that right there on the dirt path, I had a moment of awakening. I realized I had been in overdrive for so long that I had forgotten how to live.

I knew then and there I needed to let go of the business and fully transition into the work that inspired me the most. But I was terrified of letting go of the security the business provided. So I resisted... but life kept nudging me toward the edge. Eventually, I reached a breaking point and sold the business. The transition felt devastating, like the rug had been pulled out from under me. At that point, I hadn’t cultivated the inner support I needed to hold myself through such a big leap. It’s hard to articulate how difficult that was. Eventually, I hired a therapist and a series of coaches to support me through the up-leveling process.

Looking back, it’s easy to see that even though I had built a successful business, I had been going about it the hard way. My efforts were driven largely by my fears—fear of not making it, not being good enough, and so on. I pushed myself so hard I could hardly enjoy my success. I’m grateful for the experience because now I am determined to do it another way. Once I started doing the inner work, I came to understand that I’ve always been more than enough, just as I am, and there’s absolutely nothing I need to prove to anyone. And from this level of wholeness, I continue to create my abundant life.

I have learned that my true security comes from within. It was never sourced in my business or bank account. I have built a career coaching women to discover this level of security within themselves to build the fulfilling life they love waking up to. It’s so much easier to take aligned action with clarity and confidence when you know deep inside that you are secure no matter what. Today, I am beyond grateful to be in the most loving marriage of my life, doing what I love!